Rather than going cold turkey or fighting against the finely calibrated, billion-dollar barrage of demands for our attention that ping up on our phones, it is time for a more measured approach. If we can understand how our phones are affecting every area of our lives, from our concentration spans to our body image, then we can start to make small, individual shifts that ensure technology is working for us, not the other way around.Forget aiming for inbox zero and screen-free days: instead, learn to reassess your relationship with your phone on your own terms, spotting what works for you and what doesn't. Your phone? Your rules.